The grief of a mother who has lost their child is heart breaking. If this has happened to you dear one, please do accept my sincerest, heartfelt prayers. Although no words can really help to ease the loss you bear, just know that you are very close in my heart. With light and love, I pray that you and your family can heal.
Please know that you are not alone in this experience, as unfortunate as it is, alas many moms and dads have had to endure such a painful event. I know grief is a process that can be scary, and the feelings of loneliness or emptiness can be overwhelming, I hope in some small way this post can help.
For you I have tried my best to collect books written by other moms who have went through this experience. I hope that these can be helpful for you as you find your way. These books are available on Amazon. (Frankly I often buy used books from them for just a couple dollars in shipping. So you really don’t need to spend a lot. )
Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional Companion for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child
by Kathe Wunnenberg
When the anticipation of your child’s birth turns into the grief of miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death, no words on earth can ease your loss. But there is strength and encouragement in the wisdom of others who have been there and found that God’s comfort is real.
Having experienced three miscarriages and the death of an infant son, Kathe Wunnenberg knows the deep anguish of losing a child. Grieving the Child I Never Knew was born from her personal journey through sorrow. It is a wise and tender companion for mothers whose hearts have been broken–mothers like you whose dreams have been shattered and who wonder how to go on.
This devotional collection will help you grieve honestly and well. With seasoned insights and gentle questions, it invites you to present your hurts before God, and to receive over time the healing that He alone can–and will–provide.
Each devotion includes:
* Scripture passage and prayer
* “Steps Toward Healing” questions
* Space for journaling
*Readings for holidays and special occasions also included
I Carried an Angel
by Staci Luker
Being a parent is one of the greatest blessings we are given in this life. But what happens when you have to tell your child good-bye? How do you continue on as a parent on earth when your child is apart from you in heaven? I Carried an Angel is the story of one mother finding her way as the parent of a baby who was born sleeping.
Silent Grief: Miscarriage-Child Loss: Finding Your Way Through the Darkness
by Clara Hinton
Almost 200,000 couples in America each year suffer through the tragedy of miscarriage. And that statistic only tells us about first trimester miscarriages. The emotional pain of longer-term miscarriages, and the untold numbers of mothers and fathers who keep silent about their hurt, make this form of child loss especially cruel.
But in Silent Grief , author Clara Hinton brings a clear message of hope through the cold mourning. Writing of her own grief, and interviewing scores of women and men, she offers not pat answers, but instead show us this: You are not alone.
Additionally, the author touches the tears of other forms of child loss: stillbirth, missing children, and adult children who succumb to accident or illness.
The moving, honest responses to these interviews tells the reader that through the tears and rage and awful silence, God still loves us and knows our children intimately. King David knew this. He knew that one day he would reunited with his child.
Progressing Through Grief: Guided Exercises to Understand Your Emotions and Recover from Loss by Stephanie Jose LMHC LCAT
“From the clinical perspective of a licensed mental health counselor…some of the questions we are often asked include ‘Is this normal?’ or ‘Am I going crazy?’ Progressing Through Grief answers these universal questions and others, and illustrates how personal and unique each person’s experience is with loss.”
Cécile Rêve, LMHC and Co-founder of ARTrelief, an expressive arts therapy center
Grieving is a highly personal experience and reactions differ from person to person. Feelings of loss are arguably the most unique, confusing feelings with which to cope. Therapist and grief expert, Stephanie Jose, understands this. She wrote Progressing Through Grief as an interactive resource to gently meet you wherever you are today, as you move through your grief and towards healing. Stephanie has spent countless hours working with grieving clients, and she saw the need for a resource that would address the various feelings of grief that occur at any stage of the process.
Twenty years ago, Stephanie Jose became well acquainted with grief when she suddenly lost her best friend. She has experienced first-hand many of the same feelings as her patients. Progressing Through Grief provides practical methods for coping with immediate feelings of loss, as well as the difficult emotions that can persist over time.
Progressing Through Grief is divided into three sections, each focusing on key factors that create a powerful process for healing:
•Understanding why grieving is important, and how grief affects your body
•Identifying complicated feelings and learning skills for coping with them
•Journaling to move through overwhelming feelings and practicing self-care through relaxation techniques, nutrition tips, and meditation practices
Designed to be a companion as you courageously confront and process your feelings, Progressing Through Grief is intended to help you progress through your grief and into healing.
Healing Your Grieving Heart After Stillbirth: 100 Practical Ideas for Parents and Families (Healing Your Grieving Heart series)
by Alan D. Wolfelt PhD (Author)
Beloved grief educator Dr. Alan Wolfelt compassionately explores the common feelings of shock, anger, guilt, and sadness that accompany a stillborn child, offering suggestions for expressing feelings, remembering the child, and healing as a family. Ideas to help each unique person—mother, father, grandparent, sibling, friend—are included, as are thoughts from families who experienced a stillbirth. This new addition to Dr. Wolfelt’s popular series is a healing companion to families when they need it most.
Surviving the First Hours and Beyond
This classic book is one of the first given to newly bereaved parents to offer guidance in decision-making after their baby’s death and to assist caregivers as they support families. Empty Arms encourages families to meet their babies and say hello before rushing to say goodbye. With compassion that comes from Sherokee and David’s experience of having lived through the death of their son Brennan, the book offers guidance and practical suggestions for the decision-making at the time (including why and how one might see, hold, and memorialize one’s baby) and over time (such as how to handle such times as anniversaries, holidays and the birth of other babies in the parents’ close circle.)
Family and friends can learn how to understand the loss and be supportive of the bereaved families.
It offers ongoing support about subjects such as returning to work or to life, couple grieving, surviving children, feeling guilty, having another child or not, and feeling lonely.
With over 300,000 in print, this book touches the hearts of families at the time of their loss and over time as they heal.
An excellent bibliography and resource section are included.